Being a gay man over 40

To all my gay, male, friends of 40+ and anyone else reading this post.

I recently posted words on my Facebook page about being a gay man over 40, which got many comments  and as I head towards my 56th birthday I thought I would expand on some of the things that I was writing about in that post.

Most of us are going through the next stage of our lives. We are at that age where we see the wrinkles, gray hair, extra pounds.

We see the pretty 25 year olds and sigh. But, we were once 25, too, just like they will one day be our age. What they bring to the table with their youth and zest for life, we bring with our wisdom, experience and good hearts. For all we’ve been through earning each gray hair… , bills and ills and watching our fellow gay men die from disease way too soon, paving the way for equality …whatever else life brought you/us over the 30s, 40’s, 50’s, and 60’s.

We are survivors… we are warriors… we are gay men. Like a classic car or fine wine. While our exterior may not be what it once was, it is traded for our spirit, our courage and our strength to enter this chapter of our lives with grace and pride for all we’ve been through and accomplished.

Never feel bad about aging. It is a privilege denied to many.

I think that as we all age we reflect on the good, the bad and all those things in between that have made us the men we now are.  Those times have shaped and created the strong, defined men that we are.

We have lived through the dark days of an epidemic that saw so many of our lovers, friends and family taken from us and survived.

So much has happened for all of us as gay men, from law reform to marriage equality that make me realize just how far we have come.

Each new days brings a new sunrise and a chance to continue on this amazing journey that is our lives as gay men in 2018 and beyond!


Now 56 and I Love my age

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